For the past five or six weeks, I have developed a mantra that I feel is just applicable to everyday situations or people that have constantly made me afraid of what’s to come. For the past five or six weeks I have been trying to figure out how to live a better life without having one person or one event to be the director of my life. I have been working to figure out how to take control of my physical, mental, and emotional well being. Therefore, I say this phrase, this mantra to myself, to remind me that I am stronger than whatever I am struggling with at the moment.
Brave: (adj.) having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty; having or showing courage.
“Be brave” is the phrase that implies that whatever you are going through, you have to bring yourself to be brave. You have to gather up all the strength, all the energy you have, to really push forward. I inserted the word “be” because the description word of brave is just a stand alone description word. “Be” implies that it is something that you want to be and you get to be if you choose it. This is a goal for yourself, a promise you are making to yourself.
Being brave is one of the biggest promises you can make to yourself for your life.
This phrase rings true when times are tough, when there’s nothing else to say on Twitter about what to feel, when things do not go the preferred way, or there’s something you encounter that, initially, seems impossible to handle. This phrase is especially crucial and difficult to hold on to on the days where everything seems right. Everything is working out, everyone’s happy, we’re all working towards our goals, we’re doing our own thing, and then all of a sudden someone comes along and tries to intentionally or unintentionally bring it down.
“You’re stupid” “No one asked you” “Your feelings are invalid” “What a waste of time”
“You can’t do anything right” “Get out of my world. It’s mine not yours.”
“I hate you” “You aren’t doing enough” “I don’t love you”
“You’re ugly” “You’re weak”
“You’re dead to me”
What do you do in those times when negative phrases, similar to these, slap you cold in the face? When you have heard these phrases countless times over and at that point you just don’t want to get back up again. When all the feelings that you have pent up and your cup is filled to the brim. Before you know it you find tears running down your face and then you find yourself unable to stop. Your body becomes limp, Your eyes become heavy and you do not have the energy to do anything anymore. Your motivation to do or feel anything has gone below zero. You start to believe these negative statements that have been placed on you by one person or one experience.
I know this is not how you want to live.
I know this is not who you want to be or feel.
So who do you want to be? I know you want to be strong. I know you want to be independent. I know you want to be loved. I know you want to be happy. These possibilities are all there for you and you as you deserve nothing but these. However only if you become brave enough to take the first step, no matter how big or small that may be, will these actually become your realities. We want these to be our realities, but we also have to face the realities that we don’t want to accept, learn from them, and use them to create a better future and better life for ourselves. We have to be brave to
ask the professor for the class you’re struggling in for help
try something that you have never done before
apply for the job that seems impossible to attain
ask that one person you find attractive out on a date
tell a friend what’s really on your mind
quit a habit that hurts you more than helps you
seek out help from a counselor or professional
tell our parents how we feel
confront the person who broke your heart
forgive the person who hurt you the most
truly, wholeheartedly love ourselves
I know being brave in the face of these challenges going to be hard, and I know just making the first move is going to take a lot of energy from you. Especially because the person or experience is something that you have been running away from, hiding from, trying to avoid, or just push it off to the side and ignore what is at hand. Something that you’ve been swimming around or trying to find another way to fix the problem that requires the least amount of energy or the least amount of human interaction. But I know you’re tired of running, and you just want to be happy and move on with your life. You know what you want and you feel like you’ve run out of options to fix it the way you want to fix it. You want to make peace with your past, and be in your present, and look forward to your future.
I’m right there with you.
Let’s be brave together.